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How Do You Turn a Devastating Loss Into the Life You Want?

Jen Proctor, one of Hollywood’s most successful talent whisperers, shares her story about the effects of suicide and how to create a life of joy in spite of the pain

Cultivated Entertainment CEO Jen Proctor

Have you ever seen someone who appears to have it all and you think, “Wow, they really got it going on. I wish my life was like that.”?

If you said no, you’re LYING!  (Or maybe you just happen to be the one truly enlightened soul on the planet.)

Try as we may not to judge people by what they look like, it’s hard not to. And that’s what I did when I first met Jen Proctor.

The CEO and founder of Cultivated Entertainment, Jen leads a successful talent agency that works with everyone from A-list actors and musicians to chefs, athletes, lifestyle experts, journalists and more.

But what I didn’t know is that beneath her beautiful blonde, blue-eyed exterior, there was a story that could easily shatter anyone’s world.

When Jen was 13 years old, the unthinkable happened. Her mother committed suicide.

Rather than retreating into a life of pain and shame, Jen transformed the devastating loss into constructive action. She allowed that struggle to become her strength and it has compelled her to move forward and connect with others to help them improve their own situations.

Jen Proctor, CEO of Cultivated Entertainment

“It allows me to have deeper connections with people because I understand that everybody goes through stuff. Whether it’s your parents getting divorced or you have a sibling who’s an addict or you struggle with an eating disorder, everybody has a story or a situation.”

Indeed, all of us have our own challenges, no matter how “put together” we might seem. Just think about the suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, two highly successful people who appeared to have it all.

As Jen says, “We’ve all gone through stuff and we should not feel sorry for ourselves, but use it to fuel us and inspire us to create the things and the life that we want to create.”

Watch the full Homegirl Talk interview for more insights from Jen Proctor and how she has turned her struggle into success.

If you or someone you know needs help, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Available 24 hours everyday.

Written by Mar Yvette

Mar Yvette is an on-air host, lifestyle expert, writer and editor with 10+ years of experience working with some of the world’s most recognized media companies.