in

Fame, Fortune, Failure? Forget It. The 3 Reasons Why I Love Being a Working Mom and Musician

Juggling career and family isn’t easy, but it can be done: “Focus on the positive parts of life as much as possible.”

Being a music mom isn't easy ... but it's worth it
Being a music mom isn't easy ... but it's worth it

Balancing the two worlds of my music and my family is something I used to struggle with on an almost daily basis.  On one hand, I adore my role as a mother and family woman. I don’t want to be absent in my children’s lives. At all. I want to be there for birthdays, Easter, and Christmas. I want to walk them to school, go camping, and visit the park.

On the other hand, I have my role as an artist. Constantly compelled to create, perform, and satisfy certain career ambitions, I am always trying to unleash my inner songwriter and performer. Rather than lament what appears to be the ultimate parenting conflict, though, I have chosen to embrace it. In fact, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Here are the three reasons why I love being a music mom.

1. Creativity is important to me, and I get to encourage it within my family.  

I have always held dear the positive effects of teaching and embodying creativity for my kids. I can think of no better way to show them what it means to be creative than by actively writing, singing, and performing my own songs. It is a perfect example of practicing what I preach. Not only that, but I get to show them what it means to work with others.

Whether they end up becoming musicians, artists, graphic designers, or something else that allows them to use their creativity, I want them to always know that their creative urges ought to be embraced and acted upon as often as possible. They are, in short, a gift.

2. Having kids forces me to work as hard as I can to make my music career successful. 

To be honest, having children has helped me a great deal in thinking about my music as a business. This is no longer merely a hobby, and it can’t be. I can’t go on tour and lose money on every show, or pay to play. I have to sell a certain amount of merchandise. I have to come home with a profit. The reason is that I am not doing this just for myself. That type of pressure is a good one in that it can really motivate you.

3. Following my dreams encourages my children to follow theirs. 

Being a successful, self-sufficient musician has always been my dream. I think it’d be a crime to give up on that dream simply because I have kids. When we first had children, though, I must be honest: I briefly contemplated giving up music.

There’s so much social pressure to focus solely on our kids that doing something creative like being a musician is often frowned upon. Then I wondered what kind of example it would set for my kids if I gave up on my dreams so easily. I began to think of myself as a role model for them in that I have a very clear vision for my future, and I am working towards making it happen. If they end up doing the same, I will consider all of this a success.

So there you have it. This is why I have changed my outlook regarding the relationship between my career and my family. Instead of saying that I have to juggle the two things I most care for, I am proud and extremely fortunate to say that I get to juggle them.

Stay in touch through Eileen Carey’s official website and the Music Mom blog, which discusses music, motherhood, and life.

This post was created with our nice and easy submission form. Create your post!

Written by Eileen Carey

Eileen Carey is an award-winning LA-based country pop singer and songwriter who wants to make the world a better place through her music.